Planning a bachelorette party combines the joy of celebrating your friend's upcoming marriage with the complexity of coordinating a group trip. As the maid of honor or organizer, you're tasked with creating an unforgettable experience while managing diverse preferences, budgets, and schedules. This guide will help you plan a bachelorette party that everyone will remember.
When to Start Planning
6-8 months before the wedding: Begin discussing general ideas with the bride and bridesmaids. Lock down dates and get a rough headcount.
4-6 months before: Book accommodations and flights if traveling. Popular destinations fill up quickly, especially for summer weekends.
2-3 months before: Finalize the itinerary, make restaurant reservations, and book any activities that require advance booking.
1 month before: Send final details to all attendees, collect remaining payments, and confirm all reservations.
Choosing the Perfect Destination
Beach Destinations
Miami, FL - Nightlife, beaches, and Art Deco charm Cabo San Lucas, Mexico - Resorts, water sports, and relaxation Puerto Rico - No passport needed for US travelers, beautiful beaches, and vibrant culture Tulum, Mexico - Bohemian beach vibes and wellness activities
City Getaways
Nashville, TN - Honky-tonks, live music, and pedal taverns New Orleans, LA - Jazz, fantastic food, and a festive atmosphere Las Vegas, NV - Classic bachelorette destination with endless entertainment Austin, TX - Live music, great food scene, and outdoor activities New York City - Broadway, rooftop bars, and world-class dining
Wine & Relaxation
Napa Valley, CA - Wine tasting and spa treatments Scottsdale, AZ - Resorts, spas, and desert beauty Charleston, SC - Southern charm, great restaurants, and historic beauty Savannah, GA - Beautiful squares, ghost tours, and open container laws
International Adventures
Montreal, Canada - European feel without crossing the Atlantic Cancun, Mexico - All-inclusive resorts and Caribbean beaches Barcelona, Spain - Beaches, tapas, and vibrant nightlife Dublin, Ireland - Pubs, culture, and Irish hospitality
Budget Planning for Bachelorette Parties
What's Typically Included in Group Costs
- Accommodation
- Group transportation
- Shared meals and activities
- Decorations and matching shirts/accessories
- The bride's share of all expenses
What Each Person Usually Pays Individually
- Their own flights
- Personal drinks beyond group rounds
- Individual spa treatments or optional activities
- Souvenirs and personal shopping
Average Budget Ranges
Budget-Friendly (Nearby destination, 2 nights): $300-500 per person Mid-Range (Domestic flight, 3 nights): $600-1,000 per person Luxury (International or premium destination): $1,500-3,000+ per person
Tips for Managing Group Budgets
- Survey the group early about budget comfort levels before choosing a destination
- Create a clear breakdown of expected costs when sending invitations
- Use a payment app like Venmo or Splitwise to track expenses
- Collect money upfront for major bookings to avoid chasing payments later
- Build in a buffer of 10-15% for unexpected expenses
Activity Ideas
Daytime Activities
- Spa day with treatments for the whole group
- Pool or beach club with cabana rental
- Wine or cocktail tasting tour
- Cooking or mixology class
- Boat cruise or yacht rental
- Photo shoot with a professional photographer
- Fitness class like yoga, barre, or cycling
- Shopping excursion or personal styling session
Evening Activities
- Group dinner at a special restaurant
- Bar hopping with a themed itinerary
- Show or performance (comedy, drag, burlesque, Broadway)
- Private karaoke room
- Club night with bottle service
- Sunset cruise with drinks
- Casino night
Unique Experience Ideas
- Murder mystery dinner
- Escape room with the bridal party
- Pottery or painting class
- Flower arranging workshop
- Champagne tower experience
- Volunteer activity (if meaningful to the bride)
Creating the Perfect Itinerary
Day 1: Arrival
- Coordinate arrival times for group welcome
- Light activity while waiting for everyone (lunch, settling in)
- Group dinner to kick off the weekend
- Optional nightcap or low-key evening activity
Day 2: The Main Event
- Relaxed morning with brunch
- Signature afternoon activity
- Time to rest and get ready
- Special dinner
- Evening celebration
Day 3: Wind Down
- Late breakfast or brunch
- Optional light activity (beach, shopping)
- Departures
What to Know About the Bride
Before planning, gather intel on:
- Her ideal vacation style (adventure vs. relaxation)
- Favorite foods and drinks
- Activities she's always wanted to try
- Hard nos (heights, water, certain themes)
- Her relationship with surprises (loves them or prefers to know plans)
- Dietary restrictions and allergies
- Her wedding theme or colors (for coordinating decorations)
Coordination Tips
Communication Strategy
- Create a group chat (without the bride) for planning
- Use a shared document or Plan Harmony for itinerary details
- Assign specific tasks to different bridesmaids
- Set clear deadlines for decisions and payments
Managing Different Opinions
- The bride's preferences come first
- For group decisions, take votes
- Offer some optional activities for those who want alternatives
- Remember: not everyone needs to do everything together
Day-Of Coordination
- Share the full itinerary in advance
- Include addresses, confirmation numbers, and contact info
- Designate a point person for each activity
- Have backup plans for weather-dependent activities
Planning a Bachelorette with Plan Harmony
Coordinating a bachelorette party involves juggling multiple people, preferences, and payments. Plan Harmony makes it easy to:
- Build a shared itinerary that everyone can view and contribute to
- Vote on activities when the group can't decide
- Track the budget and see who owes what
- Keep all details in one place instead of scrolling through endless group texts
Create your bachelorette trip on Plan Harmony and let the bride join (or keep it a surprise) to collaborate on the perfect celebration. No more lost reservation details or confusion about the schedule!
Final Reminders
- Confirm everything in writing and save confirmation emails
- Check the bride's wedding schedule to avoid conflicts with dress fittings, showers, etc.
- Consider travel insurance for large bookings
- Pack a survival kit with pain relievers, bandages, phone chargers, and snacks
- Take lots of photos but respect privacy about what gets shared publicly
- Focus on the bride - this is her celebration, not a competition
A successful bachelorette party isn't about having the most Instagram-worthy moments or the wildest stories. It's about celebrating your friend and creating happy memories together before she begins this new chapter. Plan with love, stay flexible, and enjoy the celebration!
